Weirdo! Freak! Emo! Strange! Oddball! Geek! Misfit! Often considered to be hurtful insults hurled by a bully, are actually code for “Unique”.


Victim’s of bullying need to understand right here, right now that….


BEING UNIQUE IS CHIC! Phat! Tight! Neat! Fresh! Cool! Awesome! Being unique is a good thing, not a bad thing, as some may have lead you to believe.


If you have seen Tim Burton’s film, Frankenweenie, then you know that is Weird Girl and Mr. Whisker’s in the picture shown. If you have not seen Frankeweenie, do – it’s a great flick.


Frankenweenie’s Wiki site describes Weird Girl as someone who does not fit in well with other kids. She delivers ominous pronouncements in a monotone voice. Her cat, Mr. Whiskers, is a constant companion. Weird Girl and Mr. Whiskers both have an unnerving, unblinking stare. Weird Girl loves to share Mr. Whisker’s dreams to those whom he dreamt about.


Weird Girl is not bothered by the way she is mistreated by others. Kids often give her and Mr. Whiskers a wide berth, especially when she rambles on about the cat’s premonitions. Weird Girl clearly embraces who she is… from her large staring eyes, to her monotone voice, to her psychic abilities to read ‘signs Mr. Whisker’s leaves in the litter box’. The other kids don’t directly bully Weird Girl, but you can definitely sense she is not the most popular person to hang around.


Weird Girl is weird. But, she is weird in a cool way. A unique way. Her hair, her dress, her voice, her personality, her quirks..all of it. She demonstrates her weirdness as a special personality trait. She’s never seen feeling ashamed of who or how she is. She embraces everything about herself and could care less what others think of her and Mr. Whiskers.


I don’t know about you, but I find being unique fun. Who wants to be normal? Ugh…boring. Be yourself! Be unique! Who cares what they think! As one saying goes, “Don’t ever let anyone dull your sparkle!” As silly as that sounds, it’s the truth. Let your light shine.


Whatever unique qualities you adorn;


Your physical appearance (eyes, nose, mouth, hair, height or weight)

Your clothes

Your voice/speech

Your personality

Your quirks

Your taste in TV/Movies/Music


(you get the idea)


Never give anyone the power to make you feel bad about yourself. Embrace your uniqueness, don’t be ashamed or feel horrible or put yourself down because of it. If someone does not appreciate your uniqueness…First, that is their problem, let them keep it. Second, they are jealous and only wish they had the guts to stand proud and be who they are, wear what they want, say how they feel, etc…


I have said it before, but I am going to say it again. There is no one else like you. You are special and you are here for a purpose. A great purpose. You are not here to be beaten down physically/emotionally/mentally by a bully or by a person who clearly does not get how cool, special and unique you really are.


Question: Who put a bully troll in charge of deciding that being unique wasn’t cool?


Answer: No one….but you should be aware that when you let the bully’s pointless yammering and finger pointing affect you, you are putting them in charge of dictating how you feel about yourself. It’s okay, don’t feel bad – it took me some time to catch on to that one too. Now that you know the truth, brush off their hate and embrace loving yourself just as you are. Change for no one.


Weird Girl’s quotes from the movie read, “Mr. Whisker’s had a dream about you last night. If Mr. Whiskers dreams about you, it means something big is going to happen.”


That something big is YOU loving, accepting and embracing yourself, being proud of your uniqueness and no longer succumbing to abuse at the hands of a bully, no matter who they may be.


If Mr. Whisker’s dreamed it, it will happen…but you have to do your part to help make it happen.


Start believing in yourself – Stop believing in your bully.




Never Let A Bully Win!

Fight Back!



Hugs XX

Bullycide: To Whom It Concerns





Which step have you reached today in the Bully Battle you are fighting? Are you going to stay on the “I won’t do it” step and let the bully defeat you? Or are you going to take a step at a time until you reach the, “Yes I did it” step and no longer allow a bully to dictate how you should feel about yourself. 


You Can Do It – You can make it all the way to the top! None of us recalls what it was like to be a baby. We don’t remember that first all we could do was lay there…then roll over…eventually crawl and after some trial and error…walk, one wobbly step at a time. 


You may stumble. You may even fall. But, keep on climbing the steps of life and never let anyone or anything stand in your way.


You are a winner! ❤


Never Let A Bully Win.

Fight Back.



Hugs – XX

Bullycide: To Whom It ConcernsImage


This is a cute little #animation done a few years ago by#Pixar with a group of birds. Pixar did a great job on the animation and the storyline. There’s a message here between the laughs.
Acting like a #bully doesn’t pay.

Never Let A Bully Win.
Fight Back.

Big Hugs XX



A few weeks ago I channel surfed upon the movie, “8 Mile” starring Eminem, Kim Basinger, Mekhi Phifer and Brittany Murphy, airing on MTV. I had not seen “8 Mile” since its release back in 2002. My timing could not have been better. Eminem’s character, B-Rabbit and his rival, Papa Doc, were about to battle for the title of best rapper in Detroit.

Now I want you, for just a moment, to forget this is a movie. Forget these two Actor/Rappers are playing characters. And forget that the rap was pre-written, based on scripted events in the movie. What made this scene in “8 Mile” stand out was the fact that Eminem/B-Rabbit, took the power away from Papa Doc.

The MC flipped a coin and Papa Doc had the option to go first or pass. He passed. See, Papa Doc thought he was slick by letting B-Rabbit take the mic first. Papa Doc’s cocky, bully attitude allowed him to falsely believe he was going to win simply by ragging on B-Rabbit using typical bully put-downs.

Take a moment and read Eminem/B-Rabbit’s lyrics to the rap off and you will see what I mean when I say, “Eminem/B-Rabbit took the power back.”


Now while he stands tough
Notice that this man did not have his hands up
This free world got you gassed up
Now who’s afraid of the big bad wolf

1, 2, 3 and to the 4
1 pac , 2 pac, 3 pac, 4
4 pac, 3 pac, 2 pac, 1
You’re pac, he’s pac, no pacs, none

This guy ain’t no ****** MC,
I know everything he’s got to say against me,
I am white, I am a ******* bum, I do live in a trailer with my mom,
My boy Future is an Uncle Tom.
I do got a dumb friend named Cheddar Bob who shoots
himself in the leg with his own gun,
I did get jumped by all 6 of you chumps
And Wink did **** my girl,
I’m still standing here screaming “**** THE FREE WORLD!”
Don’t ever try to judge me dude
You don’t know what the **** I’ve been through

But I know something about you
You went to Cranbrook, that’s a private school
What’s the matter dawg? You embarrassed?
This guy’s a gangster? his real name’s Clarence

And Clarence lives at home with both parents
And Clarence’s parents have a real good marriage
This guy don’t wanna battle, He’s shook
‘Cause there no such things as half-way crooks
He’s scared to death
He’s scared to look in his *****yearbook, *** Cranbrook

**** the beat, I go acapella
**** a papa doc, **** a clock, **** a trailer,**** everybody
**** y’all if you doubt me
I’m a piece of **** white trash, I say it proudly
And **** this battle, I don’t wanna win, I’m outty,
Here, tell these people something they don’t know about me.

With that last line, B-Rabbit tossed the microphone at Papa Doc, who was left speechless. Why? Because B-Rabbit took the power back. He exposed Papa Doc for the fraud that he actually was. Papa Doc wasn’t some super bad rapper/thug after all. He was a phony. A fraud. A nobody.

Once the power was taken away, Papa Doc had nothing. He stood on the stage speechless. He could no longer hurt B-Rabbit. B-Rabbit owned who he was….the good, the bad, and the ugly. He acknowledged all of the things that Papa Doc found fault with and by doing so, stripped Papa Doc of the power to cause him further pain. B-Rabbit schooled Papa Doc real good.

Now I’m not telling you to go ask the DJ to, “Spin that ****”, so you can engage in some sort of rap-off against your bully. Unless you have some mad rap skills, it’s best you not go there. I am also not telling you to dig up dirt on your bully either. Do that and you will become a bully if you aren’t careful. Two wrongs don’t make a right.

“Well what can I do then?”, You ask.

Easy. You can realize your bully has issues…probably bigger than you will ever know. What makes a bully appear stronger and more superior than their victim is that a bully is better at hiding said issues. Hence why they are the bully and not the bullied.

Bullies deflect their issues onto their victims. A bully has deep rooted issues that require professional help in order to change. Bullies are often filled with misplaced anger. They are jealous. They are envious. And so much more. Bullies are good at masking their issues by pointing out what they deem to be issues with their victims.

While a bully knows WHAT they do to you, they do not know WHY they do it to you.

Whatever a bully’s problem with you might be, keep in mind it is THEIR PROBLEM. Not yours. Don’t ever feel like you have to pick up their mantle of hate and self-loathing and despair and get to the point where you turn on yourself and begin to believe all of that vile vomit spewed forth by your bully. Those are their words and thoughts of you. Not your own words and thoughts of yourself. And if they are…you need to change your stinkin’ thinkin’ right now. A bully is not in charge of you. You are in charge of you. Please remember that – always.

Accept that you are wonderfully, skillfully and beautifully made. You are unique. There is no one else out there like you. You do not need to change something about yourself that a bully finds to be a fault . The truth is, the bully needs to change.

Bullies are nothing more than phonies who front. They are hurting inside and in order to make them feel better about themselves, they have to hurt you. Keep that in mind the next time a bully strikes out and instead of shedding tears of pain for what they say or do, shed tears of sorrow for the bully. They are sad. They are pathetic. And they are the one who is weak….not you.

Never Let A Bully Win. Fight Back. Live.